The Kincode™ is my philosophy: a blend of Rolfing, Somatic Experiencing and me!
This is a way of knowing your body; your bones, your tissues, your blood, your breath and how you’re connecting to the ‘being’ of your body. It’s about becoming curious about how your body communicates its knowledge as the gateway to health and wellness.
There’s something powerfully uniting about the fact that everyone has a body
But do you know how amazing yours is? Or why you’d need to know?
Your body can regenerate billions of cells daily, all of which are communicating with you right now directly through a code. Every second of every day your body is sending you signals; your very own code. Learning how to read these signals can orient you to your wellness and steer you to your future health.
Whether you're trying out Rolfing and Somatic Experiencing or any other modality, The Kincode is an ethos we can bring into any interaction we have with our body.
The Kincode is you and your body. And how you connect. Your Kincode
The ‘Kin’ refers to your relationship with your body and the ‘code’ is how your body communicates with you. It’s trying to reach you and show you what it needs.
My intention is to teach you more about why you might want to connect to your body, what you can learn and how this sets you up for a deeper sense of belonging and feeling whole.
Your body is extraordinary. We have many ways we can connect to it but many more that are used to disconnect. Do you notice when you're trying to disconnect from your body and do you know why?
“Know thyself” is a message that’s been passed down to us through the ages that we can spend a lifetime working towards. But when we’re considering self-knowledge are we also thinking about knowing our bodies? To really know ourselves is to sense the knowledge within us, from our bodies.
I’m not just talking about understanding this formidable structure and its inner workings; the anatomy and physiology. I’m talking about understanding the profound potential of having a relationship with your own body, your oldest friend. It’s about realising the value and worth of this relationship as we experience ourselves and who we are meant to become.
We know that our body is our container; it holds all our memories, experiences and the threads that link the past to our future. But do we fully realise how much it can teach us about our health and how this can bring about change in the quality and depth of life?
I know there may be people who do not want to have a relationship with their body if it somehow feels frightening, boring or ludicrous. But is it possible that somewhere within you knows how important it is?
For over two decades my continuing research and exploration led me to sit down with some of the wisest and most progressive practitioners I know . It was during these evolving conversations that we'd always gravitate back to the same question - how do we teach our clients and students how to have a relationship with their bodies? Alongside these conversations I continued to ask my clients to describe their relationship with their body. The answers are fascinating, varied and revelatory, but what always compels me is the pause and bewilderment this question can be met with. They’ve often not considered this before, let alone been asked. Whether you’re deeply connected or profoundly disconnected from your body I wonder what your answer would be.
How would you describe your relationship with your body?
It’s the relationship with your body that is pivotal to changing anything about your body and moving forward as the most fulfilled version of yourself.
It’s the most important relationship of your life.
To be able to answer that question you may initially need to ask yourself:
“Am I in my body?”
This might sound like an unusual question. When I ask you this it’s not to suggest that something is wrong if you can’t feel your body as that’s surprisingly common. But I'd like to encourage you to consider this question. Mull it over, raise an eyebrow but keep asking yourself the question…
Are you in your body?
It is an undeniable fact that trauma not only changes our experience of being in the world but more centrally our experience of being in the body. As you progress along your healing journey you may notice shifts in the way you're able to inhabit your body. Being in your body means being connected to how you’re feeling and deciphering the bodily sensations that arise when you’re having these feelings. Knowing this code is the gateway to improving your health.
I believe that a healthy relationship with one’s body is one based on curiosity, gratitude and reverence. Embarking on a journey with me is an invitation to bring these qualities into the most significant relationship of your life: